For the past few days, I went through the 5 stages of grief. Now I understand why I feel this way. It won't be easy but I need to accept that I have my own life to live and I cannot depend on other people for my happiness. It was quite a ride but I think I'll be ok soon. My heart will heal..
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The 5 Stages of Grief
- 1) Denial:
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- Denial is usually only a temporary defense for the individual.
- I could not accept that she left me, that she was not happy anymore. This is not happening.
- Denial is usually only a temporary defense for the individual.
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- 2) Anger:
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- Once in the second stage, the individual recognizes that denial cannot continue. Because of anger, the person is very difficult to care for due to misplaced feelings of rage and envy. Any individual that symbolizes life or energy is subject to projected resentment and jealousy.
- How can she be ok and happy with other people when I am so miserable? This is so unfair!
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- 3) Bargaining:
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- The third stage involves the hope that the individual can somehow postpone or delay the break-up. Usually, the negotiation for an extended time is made with a higher power in exchange for a reformed lifestyle.
- Lord, I'll do anything to get her back. Please don't let her leave me.
- The third stage involves the hope that the individual can somehow postpone or delay the break-up. Usually, the negotiation for an extended time is made with a higher power in exchange for a reformed lifestyle.
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- 4) Depression:
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- During this time, the person disconnects himself from things of love and affection. It is not recommended to attempt to cheer an individual up that is in this stage. It is an important time for grieving that must be processed.
- What's the point of living when I could never be with her again?
- During this time, the person disconnects himself from things of love and affection. It is not recommended to attempt to cheer an individual up that is in this stage. It is an important time for grieving that must be processed.
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- 5) Acceptance:
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- This final stage comes with peace and understanding.
- I know I can move on. If it's not meant to be, then it's not. I'll let her go.
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